How to Deal With Annoying Boss Habits
I believe life is a game of confidence. Confidence applies to all aspects of life. In terms of dealing with a difficult boss or co worker, having the confidence to deal with them directly makes a huge difference.
I remember as a new executive having an issue with a co worker. I went to our boss who made the polite point that dealing with the issue directly was the best way to handle things. Here I was looking for a mediator, when in fact all I needed to do was drum up the confidence to deal with it directly and professionally.
I think the same holds true for dealing with bosses. If the boss intends to "be" a great boss, he or she will welcome feedback and constructive criticism. It has to with living in integrity. Being honest, and being open to honest, constructive input can make us all better people, especially at work. If they're a lousy boss you may have to ratchet your expecatations for change.
So here a few things to consider when making things better with the boss.
1. Get confident in your ability to make a positive change. If you feel that the boss habits are precluding you from performing at your best, muster the courage and confidence to address it directly with your boss. Make a list of your thoughts and organize a plan to talk with him.
2. Recognize how emotions and energy show up at work in people. No matter how negative or degrading the boss may act, we must commit to staying in a positive and solution-based mindset. Based on the work of David M. Hawkins, M.D. Ph.D. in his book Power Vs. Force, energy shows up at work in the form of emotions. He actually developed a scientific system to calibrate emotions on a scale of 0-1000. Humanity overall registers just above the 200 mark. (No wonder there's road rage!) Focus on love, joy, honesty, courage, acceptance, and reason and you're dealing with emotions closer to 500 and up on the scale. Focus on blame, humiliation, hate, scorn, anxiety, despair and regret and you're dealing with emotions and energy that calibrate well below 200. Stay in the love zone. Just say no to road rage. Just say no to annoying human habits at work!
3. Accept that all things that happen, at work, at home and in life, are in your life to help you grow. Filter your thoughts and emotions and accept that only you can control your attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. Your good thoughts and emotions may rub off on the boss and others in your organization. Don't let the boss' bad habits impact your attitude and your behavior.
4. Don't hold grudges. Forgvive your boss in your mind and heart. This ties into the acceptance mind set. Forgiving frees you to host more positive emotions and energy which you can apply to enhancing your situation.
5. Commit to taking action. The action necessary to make it right for you at work. Approach everything with integrity. If you can't make the impact you want where you are, devise a plan to work in another department or new job.
These are just a handful of suggestions to deal with annoying boss habits. Having fun at work is much easier when your boss doesn't make life miserable. If you're in a situation like this, don't give up hope. Take the approaches offered here and let us know of any you find helpful.
If you have experiences or suggestions to help our readers, please contribute.
As always, warm regards.
Cliff Jones
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